By Slade Shaw
Women want a
man to be completely head-over-heels crazy about them, and often wonder how to drive him crazy about them but often go about it
the wrong way.
In fact, a
lot of them might do things that push him away instead of pull him in.
The first
mistake women make is thinking of men as evolved...
While we as a
species are quite evolved, we still hang onto many of our primitive instincts.
Those instincts include courtship.
So you need to
look at men at a basic level and consider what makes them tick.
Men are
hunters. They love games and challenges. They love winning more than anything.
If you want to drive your man crazy in bed book or whatever, you must know a truth that a man loves
to swoop in and save the day. He wants to be a hero.
Consider
every blockbuster movie ever made from new releases like Guardians of the Galaxy to older movies like Star Wars.
Take your
all-time favorite “guy action” movie...and then take out all of the obstacles.
Pretend that
Luke Skywalker waltzed right into the Death Star, had a talk with his dad and
easily turned Darth Vader back to the good side.
Then,
together, they made the galaxy a safe place.
Imagine if he
took care of everything in one movie...it would flop.
Men dream of
overcoming impossible odds and having a hero story to tell.
It’s the same
with dating and falling in love.
Men want to
win a woman that they feel is out of their reach.
They want a real prize.
You can use
that knowledge to reel him in and make him crazy about you, using the six
tricks I’ll share here.
And here’s
the big secret:
It’s about how you make him feel.
So even if
these tricks sound weird, they work! They make men intrigued, excited, and
crazy about you.
Trick # 1: Get
his attention - I don’t need you...but I might want you.
When you
don’t need him...and act like a prize...he’ll chase you.
When you’re
in a relationship, he’ll be even more attracted to you if he knows that you
choose to be in it.
This is
different from being in a relationship out of some desperate need to have
someone in your life.
Trick #2:
Throw him a curve ball
Men have a
little trick they use on women. Now it’s your turn to benefit from it!
A man will
give you a compliment, but it’s underhanded.
A few
examples include:
· That’s a nice dress but it’s too
loose. (or long, or flowery, etc.)
· You look good in that shirt but the
color isn’t that great.
· I don’t normally talk to the librarian
type, but you’re an exception.
Sometimes
they even use subtle insults when picking women up.
Men call this
tactic “negging” and use it to undermine a woman’s confidence so she’ll want
his approval more.
They use it
when they meet women to raise their chances of getting her into bed.
Wow, sounds
mean, right?
So let’s
change it up a bit. You don’t have to be mean, but let’s say you find ways to tease him a little.
It’s similar
to letting him know that you don’t need him.
Even more
important, you’re showing that he’ll have to work to impress you and win you
over.
So you’re upping the challenge factor,
which men love!
A simple
example is saying, “Ohhh...you’re the business type. Well, I guess I can talk
for a few.”
Or, “You
think you can get a second date that easy?”
“Well, I could tell you, but you haven’t been
sweet enough yet.” (This tells him outright that you’re setting the bar
higher!)
“I don’t know
about dating someone who dresses so casual...”
You can use
this in a relationship too.
Now, you
don’t want to trample on his male ego, but try playing “the mean girl” and see
how men go crazy over you.
Men will
desire you because you stand up for yourself and act like a prize.
Trick #3: Reverse
Psychology
Why are you
dating? To find a great guy and have a relationship.
In theory, so
are men.
So why do men
run away when it doesn’t seem like fun anymore?
They sense a
trap. Men in particular don’t like to be roped into things unless it’s their
idea.
Men want to
find a partner, but they get jumpy when it feels like you’re cornering them,
caging them, or laying claim.
Really, this
concept applies to men for most of their lives. Even after 15 years of
marriage, a man might feel like he’s losing his freedom.
He’ll want
his shop or garage, or his night with the guys, or whatever he does to feel
“free”.
How do you
overcome this?
Easy. Reverse psychology. Who said you were
looking for a relationship? Maybe you aren’t ready for commitment.
“Long
distance is hard. I might not be ready for that.”
“Being
exclusive is a big step. Maybe we could talk about it later on.”
Show interest
in him but say you’re not interested
in a serious relationship right now.
He’ll want to
change your mind.
Basically, turn
the tables on him. He thought you were trying to pull him in, and suddenly he’s
freefalling.
He’ll realize that he’s the one who
wants you more.
He’ll be
crazy about you.
This is why
men like “mean girls” and chase women who turn them down, dump them, and stand
them up.
Doing those
things makes you more desirable.
(Side note: Don’t
use this to get a man to propose. If you mention you’re not interested in
marriage, hoping to get him interested, it’s likely to backfire. That’s a huge
step so it’s something to discuss honestly.)
Acting like
you’re not interested in a relationship might seem mean.
Think about
it this way: is it mean to make a game that men love? That makes them go crazy
over you?
Tiffany (not
her real name) went on a date and found her friend Aaron attractive. Yet, she
wasn’t sure if she really liked him.
He asked her
if she was seeing other people, and she honestly answered yes.
Aaron pursued
her like crazy. They did get together, but Tiffany broke up with him.
He was
devastated and kept chasing her. They got together again...and broke up again.
The more she
pushed him away, the more he liked her.
Tiffany
wasn’t trying to play games. She did like him, but she felt they weren’t right
together.
However, she
learned something about men. They really
do like the mean girls.
On a deeper level, they like and need
that challenge. It drives them.
To use this
trick, don’t ask a man where things stand, if he’s looking for a relationship,
or what his intentions are.
Let him chase
you, and take a step back at times.
Trick #4: Realize
YOU have it going on
You know when
you go to the salon, get your hair done, put on a new outfit, and hit the town?
That’s a
great feeling.
It’s similar
to when you get a promotion or something big comes your way.
When you feel
good about yourself, it shows. Everyone will pick up on the vibe that you’re
putting up.
Now think
about this: You already have what men want.
I know you’re
trying to figure things out. But nevertheless, men are still looking for a
great woman like you.
You just need to believe it.
Men pick up
on your attitude about yourself.
So if you
feel like you’re hot stuff, he will too.
You don’t
have to be “too good for anyone” to have feminine confidence and sexy allure.
And you can’t
fool him. If you fake confidence, he’ll know.
Instead,
nurture yourself, invest in your learning and skills, and develop your talents.
Pamper yourself so you feel sexy.
And when you
show off that sexy confidence, men will follow.
Men look for
a woman who’s comfortable in her own skin, likes who she is, and loves
connecting with other people.
Show him that
you value yourself by being decisive.
If he asks
you to pick the restaurant, pick one.
If he shares
an opinion you don’t agree with, don’t pretend that you do.
Hold your
own!
You don’t have to be overbearing and
pushy to value yourself.
But when he
realizes you do value yourself and expect respect, he’ll be crazy about you.
Trick #5: Make
him long for you by having a full life
Make sure
you’re not always available to answer his calls and texts right away.
Don’t ever
tell him, “So sorry I missed your call!” or “Sorry I was busy!”
Never
apologize for having a life.
Having your
own hobbies and friends will make you more attractive to men.
Instead say,
“Wow, it was insane this week!” or simply, “It’s so good to catch up now.”
Men will test
you from time to time.
He’ll talk to
you for a week and then not call you one day. You might worry that something
happened.
Most likely,
he’s seeing what you’ll do. Call him? Send five texts?
Don’t text
him!
What if you
have a fun day at the beach, go out on the town, or hike in the woods? Do
something fun, share it on social media, and hold off on talking to him.
He’ll
suddenly realize that he doesn’t have you wrapped around his finger. And he
still has to put in the work to win you over.
“Oh, no,”
he’ll think. “She’s not a sure thing. She might be out with another man.”
And then he’ll
be chasing you again!
When he realizes you aren’t going to
contact him, he’ll reach out.
When you get
that “Hey, what’s up?” text, tell him, “Just putting aloe on my skin. Got a lot
of sun!”
When he asks
how you are, tell him, “I’ve been busy at my friend’s house...painting my mom’s
porch...so I haven’t really had the time to check my phone.”
Now he knows
that you didn’t sit at home, and that you’re ready to talk to him or go do
something with him.
This somewhat
tells him that you won’t depend on him for your social life and emotional
needs, and it takes off a lot of pressure.
That’s extremely attractive to men.
If he’s
talking to several women, you just left them in the dust.
This method is also much more fun and
healthier for you.
Whether
you’ve been in a relationship for a long time or just met him last month, this
reminds him that he doesn’t “own” you.
You become
more desirable to him when he knows that spending time with you isn’t a sure
thing.
In fact, this is super important in
long-term relationships.
Your man
wants to make you happy...but he doesn’t want to be completely responsible for
your happiness.
That sets him
up for failure, and men like to win.
Plus, keeping
busy will give him the opportunity to chase you even in a relationship.
Just make it
more special when you do get time together!
Trick #6: He
has met his match
When I say,
“He has met his match,” I don’t mean his soul mate.
Yes, I hope
the two of you end up being soul mates, but this trick is about something else.
You know in a
movie when the good guy corners the bad guy and says, “You have met your
match!”
It’s the
perfect adversary; the ying to the yang; the flip side of the coin that
balances things.
Iron sharpens iron.
If you
mentally challenge a man, you trigger his desire.
Pretend
you’re going to an NBA basketball game with two closely ranked teams.
You’re set to
watch a close game. The tension will be through the roof!
But when the
game starts, one team doesn’t put up a fight.
The other
side crushes them.
You go home
disappointed. What a waste of money, right?
Think about
this story from the point of view of a guy, and then think about it in the
context of dating.
It applies to
courting and relationships.
What does a
man want more than anything? They’ll say a swimsuit model or super rich lady,
or maybe they’ll even say a committed, loyal, beautiful-on-the-inside type of
woman.
But no matter
what they say, what they want is an equal.
He wants a
woman who will share her opinion. Stand up to him. Call him out on his BS.
He wants you
to have fun with him too.
Men go crazy over sexy banter.
They love
smart women.
Men do not
want a doormat or “nice girl” or someone who studied “How to be a perfect
wife”.
When men
marry women who fit that old idea, they don’t want to go home to her.
Yes, men love
to be taken care of and pampered at times. They want a life partner.
But you gotta
throw in some sass and banter, and tell him like it is once in a while.
You need to
be his match, like the Catwoman to his Batman.
Using the
first five tricks will set you up as his match. You showed him you won’t drop
your life for him.
You held your
own as the relationship started.
And you let your feisty side out
sometimes.
If you’re a
match for him—a challenge for him—he’ll desire you like crazy.
This works
wonders at any stage of a relationship, from initial attraction to your twenty-year
anniversary and beyond.
If the
relationship is in a rut, throw in some sass.
Flirt when he
doesn’t expect it.
Banter with him.
It’s healthy
to make some sparks sometimes.
By being his
match, you’re creating a healthy dynamic where you have an equal say, and you
help each other grow.
That keeps
life interesting, and he’ll desire you like crazy and think about you 24/7.
These six
tricks will help you attract the perfect man for you and make sure that he
stays committed.
Now you know the
rules to the game and understand his instincts better, put this knowledge to
good use. Go have some fun and always remember how valuable you are.
However, if
you want to understand men on a deeper level…
… and learn
what makes them stay, and what makes them leave…
Then, you’ll
want to watch my free presentation on Why Men Pull Away.
How To Make Sure He Never Loses Interest
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