6 Signs That He’s
In Love… and How To Make Him Desire You Like Crazy!
“When you fall in
love, the natural thing to do is give yourself to it. That's what I think. It's
just a form of sincerity.” ― Haruki Murakami
If you’ve
known a guy for some time now, and you’ve got the hots for him….
…you
probably want to know if he feels the same
way.
More than
that, you want to know if he’s falling head
over heels in love with you.
Many women
find themselves in a “he loves me, he loves me not” type of situation where
things are ambiguous.
And if
you’re reading this, chances are you want some clarity on your situation, too.
Uncertainty
is a scary thing, especially when it’s your heart on the line. You might have
gotten burned before, and you want to make sure what you’re getting into before
you go “all in.”
So I get a
lot of friends and clients asking, “How do I know for sure that he’s falling in
love with me?”
To get to
the bottom of this matter, I decided to get the inside track and pick the
brains of guys who are in happy, committed relationships.
I went
straight to the source so I could get the honest, unfiltered truth about what
goes on in a guy’s head when he’s seeing stars and feeling those fireworks with
you.
Take Nate,
a classical guitarist from Arizona, for instance.
He's been
married for 25 years now, and he was more than happy to share how he felt when
he first met his wife, Suzanne (names have been changed for privacy reasons).
Here’s what
he said:
“Before I
became a musician, I served in the military. I won’t go too much into it, but I
saw some action… and that left me scarred.
The first
two years after I came home, I struggled with how I looked and the fact that I
wasn’t the same person anymore, physically and mentally. I tried getting back
into music, which was about the time I met Suzanne.
It wasn’t
at all like ‘Love at First Sight’… I just saw her as an acquaintance. I was
probably too caught up in my own stuff to notice her, anyway.
But then
something inside me clicked. As I got to know her better, I found that we had a
lot in common, especially when it came to music.
Then I
started noticing other stuff about her, like how she runs her fingers through
her hair, and how her eyebrows arched. It sounds silly I guess but I sort of
just appreciate those small things.
Oh, and her
laugh! I swear it’s the most amazing thing I’ve heard in my life… it’s like her
laughter could solve world peace or something.
And then
suddenly I couldn’t get her out of my head. I just liked everything about her,
from the way she smelled, to how she spoke and a million little things that
made her perfect.
It was like
looking at a painting at an art gallery. At some point the colors just popped
out and the details came alive.”
And that,
ladies, is a man in love.
I see the
same thing in older folks, too. Nate’s story reminded me of my friend’s
grandparents. It’s very subtle, but it’s the most amazing thing ever.
When they’re
together, I can see his grandpa’s eyes light up. I could tell how differently
he saw her from other people - it was all over his face.
But now
you’re probably thinking, “Ok, that’s nice and all, but what about the SIGNS?”
As I said,
I talked to a lot of other men so they could weigh in as well. After calling,
emailing and Skyping almost a thousand guys, I noticed that a lot of them
echoed the same thoughts.
So, here
are six of the most common responses I got across the board. I’ve picked out
the best replies to give you some valuable insights on falling in love from a
guy’s perspective:
#1: He Wants to Be
Your Superman
Scott, 47,
who’s been married for 20 years, says:
“I realized
I was in love when I wanted to be the absolute best version of myself. Not just
today, or tomorrow, but for years and years to come.
Ever since
I met my wife, I knew I wanted to be that guy as long as I'm alive. I guess
that seems over the top, but that's really how I feel."
When a man
feels that powerful connection with you, there’s something inside that pushes
him to do things he never thought he’d do.
And now,
he’s busting his tail to do everything he can to make you fall in love with him
even more.
You can see
how much he lives and breathes for your affection and approval, and you’ll see
the kind of EFFORT he puts in.
Scott
continues, "Before my wife, I was just another lazy, unmotivated slacker.
But then she saw something in me, and I knew I'd be an idiot to let her go. I
got off my butt and decided she was the reason to get my act together.
It felt
like all those B.S. excuses in my head suddenly crumbled into dust. I had to be
a better guy so I could feel like I deserved her.
I was in
college, and I stopped hanging out with my stoner friends.
For the
first time in my life, I took something seriously. I was on the verge of
dropping out, so my folks were surprised when my grades shot way up!”
I’m not
saying women don’t feel inspired as well when they meet the right guy, but it’s
different with men.
A guy’s
brain is wired to please his woman, and when he meets The One, that part of his
mind just lights up.
His
protector and provider instincts kick in, and he’ll be damned if he can’t prove
his worth to her.
#2: He’s Learning
From You
Calvin, 38,
has been through three relationships. He's now engaged to his fiancé, and he
said this to say about her:
“In the
past relationships I’ve had, I learned other important stuff, like controlling
my emotions, keeping my jealousy in check, being a patient boyfriend, and
basically how to act like a mature adult.
This was
important stuff I had to learn before I could be ready to meet the girl I was going
to marry.
So during
those times, yes, I was in love because they taught me how to be a decent human
being. So I’ll be forever grateful for them.”
He went on:
“When I
fell in love with Allie, I also learned a lot of valuable lessons about myself
and about love.
When I was
with her, I realized that I also had to love myself, which was the biggest
breakthrough in my life.
I grew up
in a family that basically trained me to beat myself up emotionally if I did
something wrong. And I kind of hated the world because of that.
But with
Allie, I got a wake-up call. I finally learned how to lose that chip on my
shoulder.
I knew she
was different because she helped me understand who I really was. That helped me
make that change that was long overdue.”
A lot of
guys have beautiful qualities that
are buried deep within them. You can't really see it at first, but it's there.
When he
meets the right woman, that hidden part of him will suddenly blossom. It will
catch a lot of people off-guard – including himself.
So if your
man is learning and growing because you’re together, that’s a good sign he’s
falling hard for you.
#3: He Wants To
Experience It All With You
Al, a
55-year-old husband and father of four, shares his thoughts:
“When we
were in our early twenties, I already knew my wife was the last girl I’d fall
in love with. Being young and all, I wrote her a sappy love letter, and to this
day I still feel exactly the same.”
This is
what Al wrote:
“I want you to be
crazy about me as much as I’m crazy about you. I want to be the man who loves
and supports you like no one else can. I want to make you feel safe, happy and
cared for every minute of the day.
Most of all I want
to kiss you wherever we are. I want to kiss you on top of the Grand Canyon, or
at a beautiful beach in Hawaii while we’re under the stars.
I want to make love to you and feel you
against me, I want to lose myself in you. I want to be part of your life and I
want to experience it all with you.
I want your family and friends to know me and
be part of their lives too. I want them to see how much I want to be your man,
the one who’ll stay with you now and forever.
Above all, I want
to feel like this until we’re old and gray.”
Al went on,
"I wasn't a poet or anything but those words just came out as easily as
breathing…"
“Looking
back, I could have written it better but I think it did the trick,” he said
with a laugh.
I’ve helped
a lot of my clients with their love lives, and this is one sign that tells me
they’ve got a solid relationship. A guy who has serious feelings for you wants
to feel connected to you in the most profound way possible.
And that
often means he’ll make room in his life so he can be part of yours. He’ll want
to create amazing experiences with
you, and make memories that both of you will carry for a long time.
Watch the video for more reference:
#4: He Feels
Accepted By You
Aaron, 52,
has been married twice. He told me what he was thinking when he fell in love
with his second wife, Bridgette:
“Looking
back at my last marriage, one of the reasons it didn’t work out was that I felt
judged all the time. I tried opening myself up and being honest about my
feelings, but it always seemed like I was ‘punished’ for doing that.
Same goes
for my shortcomings, too. I mean, I know I’m not perfect of course, but I felt
more and more that my ex-wife didn’t accept me for who I was as a person who
had all these flaws.”
This was
pretty much the opposite case for his relationship now, which he also talked a
bit about:
“I can
really see the difference now in my current marriage. With Bridgette, I can
actually be open and straight up with her, and she doesn’t flinch or freak out.
She knows
exactly who I am and vice-versa.
Those walls
I used to have aren’t there anymore. And I know that even if get real with her,
and she sees who I truly am, she accepts all of it.
Not that it
makes it ok for me to act like a jerk around her, it’s not like that.
What I mean
is that she understands where I’m coming from as a man, and as the other half
of the relationship …and she doesn’t judge me for that.”
Listen up,
because this is something men will never tell you. Guys constantly feel
pressured about having to live up to an ideal model of masculinity.
They’re
worried that if they fall short of this expectation, they’ll be judged and get
labeled as a “wuss.” Like women, a part of them just wants to be loved for who
they are.
And they
want to feel loved even when they’re not
at their best, or if they’re not living up to the typical idea of manhood.
Also, a lot
of men think that showing their emotions is a sign of weakness.
So when a
guy opens up to his partner, a.k.a. The One Person he can be vulnerable with,
that's a big deal to him.
Men don’t
just want to be seen for what they’re useful for, or what they can provide you
with.
They also
want to be seen as a complex individual with a lot of layers. And if you make
an effort to really get to know him and see the other parts of him, he'll feel
accepted.
Let me tell
you, that’s the best feeling a guy could ever have.
#5: He’s There For the
Grimy Parts, Too
Kyle, 33,
met his wife Karen at an online dating site. She had a two-year-old son from a
previous relationship, and he didn't have a problem with that.
Here’s what
he said:
"Honestly,
I didn't know what I was getting into, but Karen had this vibe that closely matched
mine.
We liked
the same things, such as watching horror and indie movies and listening to the
same music.
I just felt
energized around her, and her son is the most amazing kid I've ever met.
And I'm not
just saying that because of his mom (laughs).
Anyway,
we'd been going out for like six months or so, and I knew she was the one
because she had this kind of warmth that made me feel loved and incredibly
strong at the same time.
Does that
make sense? That's the best way I can describe it, I think."
So Kyle
seemed like a really swell guy, but I didn’t know the whole story yet. It turns
out he was giving himself way less credit than he deserved.
Karen was
right by him while we were talking, so she couldn’t help but jump in:
"Ok,
so there was this one time when we were partying with some of my friends.
There was
plenty of food and drinks to go around, and I had more than I could handle. An
hour into it, I started feeling real sick, real fast, so Kyle took me home.
I charged through
the front door and went straight to the toilet to throw up. Kyle basically
spent the whole night me as I went back and forth from my bed to the bathroom.
It was
nothing serious thankfully; it was just a bad reaction to the food on top of
having too much to drink.
But he was
there the whole time helping me hurl into the toilet and cleaning up after me.
And in the
morning, he made me coffee and pancakes. And we were barely dating for a couple
of weeks when this happened!"
Then she
had a couple more stories to share:
“On our
first date, he brought over a Thomas The Tank Engine plush toy for my son
because he asked me what he liked.
And there
was one time I got slammed at work and had to work late, and the babysitter
flaked out on me at the last moment.
Kyle
stepped up on such short notice without a second thought. I came home to them
sleeping on the couch together with my son's favorite storybook.
He barely
knew my son back then, and he cared for him like his own. That rocked me to the
core, it really did (wipes tears from her eyes)…
When my
son's father dropped us like hot potatoes, I thought no one would ever want me.”
They've
been married for four years now, and they've got a baby on their way.
Suffice to
say, a guy who sticks around when he could very well bail is someone who's got it
bad for you.
I’m not
saying that a guy needs to have a high tolerance for bodily fluids or needs to
love kids…
… but a man
who isn’t just around for the fun stuff
is someone who’s fallen hard for you.
#6: He Sees ALL of
You
When a guy
is in love, he’s super focused on you and notices all the little details that others don’t.
As what
Nate said, he finds the most minuscule aspect of Suzanne enchanting. You could
say he's biased about it, but that's a good thing.
A man who’s
falling in love has this special filter just for you, and you can almost
pinpoint the exact moment when it comes on.
And it’s
not just the physical features, either.
He’s
attuned to who you are and what’s going on in your life. He can readily
identify the things that tick you off, what scares you, and the things you
aspire for.
He knows
the people in your world that annoy you, inspire you, or stress you out. He
pays attention to these minute details because they’re just as important to him
as they are to you.
Suzanne
shared this about Nate:
“You know
what? As much as we’re crazy about each other, Nate really sees me for who I
am… even the not-so-great-parts. He
knows what I’m capable of … and he actually has the balls to call me out when I’m
not being the best I can be (laughs).
I need
someone like that to ground me, but also make me feel seen and appreciated at
the same time. That’s my Nate.”
So He’s In Love
With You – What’s Next?
Now that
you’ve gotten to know the most honest signs of a man’s love for you, it’s time
to take action.
If you’re
seeing these signs in your guy, consider yourself the luckiest gal. Any woman
who’s been on the dating and relationship circuit for some time will tell you
how hard it is to find a man who’s got it together.
So you need
to make sure that spark you have between you now will keep burning bright for
decades to come.
On the
other hand, if you’re not seeing enough of these signs in your guy…
… and
you’re worried that you’re doing something wrong…
… don’t
lose hope!
Regardless
of where you stand with a guy, there’s plenty you can do to make him love you
like crazy, over and over.
It starts
with a subtle but psychologically potent approach to make him DEEPLY ATTACHED
to you.
Check out
this video now to learn more:
5 Steps to Getting
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