Wednesday, September 15, 2021

How To Make A Guy Miss You And Love You More

  By Hannah Jackson

Author of Make Any Man Love You 

“Now you've disappeared somewhere, like outer space
You've found some better place
And I miss you
Like the deserts miss the rain”

- “Missing” by Everything but the Girl

One of the biggest challenges for a woman in a relationship is dealing with her guy’s knack for being withdrawn or unavailable.

She might notice her man drifting away. He seems to be too caught up in his own stuff and doesn’t pursue her as much as before.

If you’ve been in this situation in the past, you know how scary this is.

It’s a terrible feeling of dread that washes over you – and it seems like you’re losing control.

You can feel him distancing himself from you, but you can’t do anything to stop him.

You want things to go back to the way they were, when he was warm, caring and affectionate.

Maybe you’re wondering, “What am I, chopped liver? What happened to the guy who couldn’t stop showering me with calls, texts, kisses and sweet little nothings?”

He seems to be so occupied with everything else in his life but YOU.

Worst of all, he seems to be perfectly fine without you.

You want to do something – anything - to make those horrible feelings inside you go away.

But it seems like the more you try to pull him closer to you, the more he wants to slip away.

All of this is making you anxious and a little paranoid. You start to watch his every move like a hawk and overanalyze everything he says.

“What did he mean by that?” you wonder, wide awake at night.

Or you might think to yourself, “He didn’t even add a smiley at the end of his message… why is he so cold all of a sudden??”

What NOT to do (a.k.a.  Don’t Make the Problem Worse)

So you go into crisis mode and pull out all the stops in an effort to win him back.

“I’ll show him,” you think, “he’ll get so much love and attention that he won’t know what hit him!”

Then you start smothering him like crazy. You bombard him with sweet messages and call him up throughout the day, make him his favorite meals…

…drop by his office to drop off a snack, try to mix things up in the bedroom…

… ask him how his day was, and just about everything you can think of.

To your surprise, however, he's even MORE withdrawn than before.

It feels like the bigger your effort, the LESS he wants to reciprocate.

And this is the thing about men – when they’re the ones being pursued, it doesn’t feel right to them.

As a man, it’s his job to initiate this kind of stuff in the relationship to fulfill his masculine role.

But you’re thinking, “Well, how else am I going to get him off his butt if I don’t do something about it?”

There’s the rub: men don’t respond to this kind of approach.

The best way to make him ache for you like he used to is by turning back the dial a little bit – NOT more.

If you crank up the affection to 11 when he’s in this uncooperative state, he’s going to want to retreat instead.

Trust me, you’re going to wear yourself out trying to get him to come around. And when you’re exhausted and ticked off, that makes a guy want to pull away further.

I know this is frustrating to hear, but there IS hope.

By playing your cards differently, you can flip the script on him. He’ll miss you with such an intensity that he’ll realize what an idiot he was for taking you for granted like that.

But before you start hatching a plan to win his heart back, there’s something you need to know first.

Learn how to create a deep emotional attachment with your man - Click Here <

The Nuts and Bolts of Romance

From a scientific perspective, certain elements play a part in making him miss you.

Neurotransmitters called serotonin and dopamine are chemicals that swirl around in someone’s brain when they’re in love. Oxytocin, also called the “love hormone,” gets into the mix as well.

All of these combine into a heady, feel-good concoction that kicks in when they’re around their romantic partner.

This is nature’s way of encouraging humans to pair bond and further the species.

And this is also why being in your partner’s presence is so intoxicating.

When you’re around that special someone, your body releases these chemicals, putting you in that warm, fuzzy state of bliss.

Over time, you become accustomed to getting your “fix.”

But what if that person went away for some reason?

The production of love chemicals would come to a screeching halt. Suddenly, all those familiar feelings associated with a significant other aren’t there anymore.

And when they’re gone, you’ll go through a period of withdrawal.

So if you want your guy to feel the pain of your absence, you’ll need to create this effect on him.

Only then will he start craving you again and chase after you like before.

Here are some simple but super effective ways to do it:

#1: Ease Up on the Social Media

Ok, so the basic idea is to get off his radar for a bit so he’ll start wondering what you’re up to.

A subtle way of doing this is by scaling back your online presence. That means not posting status updates every hour of the day and don’t put up photos of every single thing you’re doing.

Also, resist the urge to connect with your guy on social media. Don’t look at his timeline, photo albums or anything else he posts.

Try not to tag him in things in an attempt to catch his eye, or post pictures of yourself with other guys. And don’t send him a private message or post a comment on his updates, either.

Relationship or not, guys don’t like the feeling of being cyberstalked. He’ll see right through these little passive-aggressive games and tune you out even more.

And while you’re at it, practice a good amount of radio silence in general, too. Go dark for a while and don’t text, email or call him.

Remember, guys don’t respond to needy behavior – they respond to no contact.

#2: Don’t Jump the Gun

At some point, he might try reaching out to you. If he calls, don’t pick up and let him leave a voicemail instead.

Then return his call, saying you were in the middle of something when he rang you. It could be something along the lines of, "Hey sorry I missed your call. I was brushing my cat, and he was being stubborn about it. Anyway, what's up?"

(Pro tip: it’s better if you were actually busy so that it comes across as genuine – more on that later.)

In case he sends you a message, don't read it yet. Wait about half an hour before opening, so it doesn't show up as "seen."

And when you do open it, don’t type a response – otherwise, he’ll see those three little dots which tell him you’re writing something.

Doing these will establish in his mind that you’re not sitting by your phone all day, waiting for him to call. And it will tell him that you’re not available at the drop of a hat.

Learn how to create a deep emotional attachment with your man - Click Here 

#3: Work His Senses

As you’re withdrawing a bit and he starts to feel your absence, here’s another step to raise the stakes.

Find something he can anchor his mind to, like a particular dress or shirt you used to wear when you started going out, or a certain perfume you haven't used in a while.

Bring these out when you see him again. These powerful catalysts will knock something loose in his head and take him down memory lane.

Not only that, you’ll give him powerful sensory cues to remember you by. Soon enough, he’ll start craving you when he thinks about your signature scent.

In the movie “Down to You,” Al, the male lead character, broke up with his girlfriend Imogen.

He missed her so much that he couldn’t get the smell of Imogen’s shampoo out of his head. In his misery, Al tried to drink a whole bottle of it.

He turned out ok, but people asked him why he did it. He said, “I thought if I was immune to the shampoo, then I could get over her.”

#4: Put the Focus Back on YOU

I know this is a bit of worn-out advice, but there’s a good reason why.

By pulling back on the time and attention, and directing that towards yourself…

… you’re instantly increasing your value as a person.

This will make your guy remember your worth as a partner, and how you add value to his life.

A lot of women fall into the trap of putting every bit of themselves into the relationship. And when they don't leave anything for themselves, they stop growing as an individual.

Their partner will notice this and think, “Hey, what happened to the fun-loving girl I met? Why is she all ‘about taking care of the relationship’ and asking me where we’re headed?”

It can get to a level where a woman develops a sort of tunnel vision. She becomes so single-minded in making things work with her guy that she ends up turning the relationship into a chore.

Doing this will change you, and you won’t even know it - but your man will.

To avoid this scenario, it’s really crucial that you remember to recharge your batteries. Get your energy, happiness, and fulfillment from other sources aside from your man.

Do the things that you used to love doing.

Reconnect with friends, take on a personal project and kick butt at your career.

Pay attention to your physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. Listen to your own needs and respond to them appropriately.

This way, it takes the pressure off your relationship.

You’ll be refreshed and revitalized – plus, all that needy, desperate energy will go away.

When he sees you being all those things that make you, YOU…

… he’ll realize what he’s been missing out on.

This will make those withdrawal pangs even stronger. It will get so intense that he can’t ignore it anymore and do something about it.

Then watch as he brings his level of effort back to where it was before.

One thing I discovered about guys is that they have a bit of a complex when it comes to love and attraction.

For reasons beyond me, a lot of men need to feel the FEAR of losing their woman. For them, it's the only way can genuinely tell themselves that they're in love.

If anything, this is one of those “You don’t know how good you’ve got it ‘til it’s gone” situations.

And if he needs a little fear to motivate him, then so be it.

By the way, there’s ONE more trick that won’t just make him miss you…

… but also make him DEEPLY ATTACHED to you.

I've talked to thousands of women, and I've noticed a familiar pattern in a good handful of them.

For some reason, these special ladies seem to have NO problem keeping their guy interested and utterly devoted to them. Their men find it almost physically painful being away from the love of their life.

This is what I came to learn about them: they’re the kind of woman that their man would miss in the first place.

There was something about these fantastic women that sent a signal to their lovestruck partners.

And if you send the same signal to your man, it will tell him that you are, in fact, his SOULMATE.

Follow the steps on the next page to get started:

Get the Simple 5-Step Sequence To Make Him Feel Deep Emotional Attachment Towards You – CLICK HERE 


5 Signs He’s Not In Love Anymore (And What to do About it!)

  By Hannah Jackson

Author of Make Any Man Love You 

“Two words. Three vowels. Four consonants. Seven letters. It can either cut you open to the core and leave you in ungodly pain or it can free your soul and lift a tremendous weight off your shoulders. The phrase is: It's over."
― Maggi Richard



There’s nothing more painful than knowing that your man doesn’t feel like he did when you first met.

On the surface, everything might seem fine. To your family and friends, you might look like the perfect couple, and everything's going well between you.

But that small voice in your heart tells you differently. You can't quite put your finger on it, but you know your relationship is in trouble.

And with each passing day, that voice inside you grows louder and louder. Part of you just wants to bury your head in the sand and pretend that everything’s fine.

But you know that sooner or later, you can’t ignore that voice anymore.

As for your man, he’s not telling you anything, and it’s driving you crazy. Sometimes you wish he’d just come out with it and be straight with you.

If you knew for sure that the other shoe was going to drop, you could at least prepare yourself.

But instead, he’s simmering behind his wall of deafening silence.

Meanwhile, you’re stewing in your personal hell, trying to figure out what to do next.

Facing the Truth

When you’re invested in a person, it’s hard to accept the possibility that maybe he’s not the one meant for you. Just thinking about it is painful.

But a lot of women fall into the trap of denial and look the other way. The signs are right in front of them, but they pretend not to see it.

So how do you know if that feeling in the pit of your stomach is just fear talking and nothing more?

How can you tell if he really does want out, but can’t say it to your face?

To help you gauge where you stand with a guy - and what to do next – check out the 5 Red Flags That A Guy Wants to Leave:

#1: He’s Turned Into the Silent Sphinx

Have you noticed your man being more quiet than usual? Maybe in the beginning, it didn't take much for him to share his thoughts with you.

If he had a rough day or something was bugging him, he’d waste no time spilling the beans.

But now things have changed with him. Suddenly, he’s withdrawn and brushes off your questions with, “I don’t want to talk about it.”

It might sound like a textbook male response, but think twice before dismissing this one.

Watch out if the shift in his behavior is drastic. Going from being a chatterbox to stonewalling can’t be a good sign.

Learn how to create a deep emotional attachment with your man - Click Here 

#2: He Can’t Stand Being Around You

You’d think this would be obvious, but you’d be surprised.

I’ve talked to a lot of women who didn’t give this behavior much thought until their man gave them the “I love you, but not in love with you” speech.

So in some cases, spotting this sign isn’t as easy as you think.

Watch out for the following:

  • He flips out over the stupidest things, like forgetting to put back the toothpaste near the sink or not replying to his messages right away
  • The things he used to find endearing about you before annoy him now
  • When you try to snuggle up to him, he tenses up, and his body language says "go away"
  • Say goodbye to any sexy time, too - he doesn’t seem turned on by you anymore
  • He’s finding little things to bicker about
  • He overreacts to innocuous questions or comments and responds defensively
  • He used to be laid back and game for anything, and now it seems like he’s ready to snap at the drop of a hat

Now sometimes, there’s a good reason why he’s being so uptight. Maybe there’s another part of his life that isn’t doing so well, like his career for instance.

He could also be feeling burned out and lacking motivation. That happens to everyone at point or another.

However, you should be concerned if there doesn’t seem to be any other factors involved.

If this irrational behavior keeps up with little justification for it, it’s possible that he wants to check out of the relationship.

#3: He’s…. Mean

This is probably more apparent than the other signs. Not only has he clammed up and turned into a grumpy shell of his former self…

… but it seems that the affection he once had has been replaced by a HOSTILE attitude.

His general tone towards you is demoralizing. His words cut deep, especially when you’re in a heated argument.

He just wants to “win” the fight – even if it means saying the most hurtful things that have never come out of his mouth before.

You might even wonder, “Who is this stranger I’m talking to? This wasn’t the guy I met not too long ago…”

Learn how to create a deep emotional attachment with your man - Click Here 

#4: The Love and Affection Have Dried Up

On top of everything else, he’s turned a blind eye to your emotional needs.

He couldn’t care any less if you had a terrible day. He’s not in the mood to hear it, and he’d rather be doing something else.

The same goes for your other needs, too. He no longer makes the time to be together, goes off the radar for extended periods of time…

…he doesn't keep you in the loop with what's going, and he's basically not interested in doing the things a couple is supposed to do.

For all intents and purposes, he’s stopped TRYING.

#5: He Wants Space – LOTS of It

It's one thing for a guy to be unavailable for a while when he's dealing with a work-related task or something equally important.

Those times are expected, and he'll eventually come out of his cave, so to speak.

But what if he's acting like he dropped off the face of the Earth? And what if he doesn't even make the slightest effort to give you a heads up?

Maybe you've repeatedly been sending him messages, asking him what he's doing.

Then he replies with one-liners - or the dreaded "K."

In that case, that could mean that he’s not really interested in coming back.

Is It Too Late?

If you’re seeing only a couple of these signs - and they only happen occasionally – then it could be just a case of “Relationship Fatigue.”

That’s actually normal, and couples lose the spark a bit at some point.

It’s also possible that he’s getting a little TOO comfortable in the relationship. It’s normal for some guys to slack off and drop the ball.

Furthermore, some men have a tendency to take things for granted. These guys might just need a little nudge to remember how good they’ve got it.

Annoying to be sure, but it happens.

However, if you’re seeing a LOT of these telltale signs frequently in your relationship, it could be something more serious.

He could very well be entertaining thoughts of packing his bags and heading for the hills.

But don’t lose hope – there is still something you can do.

You see, I used to be in the same situation. My long-time partner had basically shunned me and he was already one foot out the door.

But I discovered a way to flip a switch inside his head, and it made all the difference in the world.

More importantly, I stumbled upon the difference between making a man feel attracted …

…and making him feel a DEEP emotional attachment to you.

So when I learned how to do the latter, it eliminated any trace of doubt in his mind that I was The One for him.

And the great thing is that it works on just about ANY guy.

Whether you’ve known him for a few months - or a few years - you can make him realize that leaving you would be the WORST decision he could make in his life.

Read the steps on the next page to learn how to turn things around – starting TODAY.

Make Any Man Love You in 5 Simple Steps – CLICK HERE 

 

The Surprising Reason Men Always Choose Certain Women (And constantly reject or overlook others)



Tanya had been told she was “amazing”, “A great catch” “cool” and “total girlfriend material” by the men she’d dated…

But all their seemingly kind words just made her feel worse.

Because the cold, hard truth was:

No matter how great they SAID she was, they still weren’t CHOOSING her.

Which meant these men were either lying, or there was something else wrong with her: something so repulsive they couldn’t bring themselves to stay with her.

“It made me feel broken” she told us. “Why am I never enough for the men I really want?”

“I just want someone to choose me”

This question of what makes a man choose a certain woman while overlooking others has plagued women for as long as men and women have been getting together.

And science may finally have an answer.

According to new research published in the scientific journal, “Archives of Sexual Behavior”*, men don’t choose women for “logical reasons”.

As dating and relationship coach Clayton Max told us, “It’s not about checking all the boxes on a man’s list of what makes his ‘perfect girl’. And a woman can’t convince a man to want to be with her”

In fact, Max says, when a woman tries to convince a man, pressure him, or show him how amazing she is, it’s likely to backfire, since these behaviors signal the exact opposite of what makes a man absolutely sure a certain woman is it for him.

“The reality is” according to Max, “men choose women who do one thing and one thing only:

They choose women who make them feel the powerful emotion of INFATUATION”

Psychologists have discovered that infatuation comes from a primal drive deep within the brain…

And in men, it’s either on or it’s off.

When a man’s infatuation instinct is ON, it doesn’t matter if a woman has any of the qualities he’s been looking for.

She could be completely wrong for him, but he’ll make time for her. He’ll move cities for her. He’ll change careers for her.

Because the Infatuation Instinct literally TURNS OFF the part of a man’s brain concerned with anything other than making her his.

So how does a woman activate a man’s Infatuation Instinct… to make him so overwhelmed with desire for her he’s willing to do anything to show her how much he wants her?

Check out the In-depth Video to found out - CLICK HERE 

5 Habits That Men Routinely Fall In Love With

 




By Clayton Max, Author of Infatuation Scripts - CLICK HERE 

“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.” ― Coco Chanel

Whether you’re looking for a long-term partner, or already have one, it pays to have the right habits in a relationship.

The thing about guys is that they don’t always know how to articulate what they want in their woman.

Most men weren’t exactly taught how to express their feelings while growing up. So it can be tricky sometimes for them to let their partner know about their emotional and physical needs.

And this leads to all sorts of misunderstandings and unfulfilled expectations, which can put a wedge between you two.

Luckily, I’m here to give you the inside track to how men think. Drawing from my own experience and from helping my clients, here are the Top 5 Habits That Make Men Crazy About You:

#1: Play Hard to Get

Ok, this might sound like familiar territory, but listen up.

Typically, a lot of women (and men!) try to make someone like them by putting on a detached-but-I-might-be-attracted-to-you kind of act.

Also, these women may wait for an arbitrary amount of time to reply to messages (e.g., a couple of hours, a few days, etc.) to avoid looking desperate. Worse, they’ll pretend they’re busy, hoping it’ll make a guy more interested in them.

But this approach tends to backfire.

It’s confusing - and worse, he’ll eventually see through this stilted act. This, of course, is a huge turn-off.

There’s no problem showing interest in a guy. And there’s no need in this day and age to play silly mind games.

Instead, you can play a different kind of game – one built on authenticity.

Give your guy hints that you like him, and be enthusiastic when you’re together. Experts find that a person starts falling in love with someone once they knew they wanted them.

As for the “playing hard to get” part, that means actually being busy. That’s not the empty kind of busy where you’re at home, scrolling down endlessly on your social media feed.

It’s better to be fully engaged with all the other parts of your life. You’ve got your work, social life, hobbies and other passions that make you well-rounded and happy.

If that makes you unavailable from time to time, that’s a good thing.

Richard Wiseman, author of “59 Seconds: Change Your Life in Under a Minute”, did some research on this.

He found that people who were hard to get gave the impression that they’re a scarce resource. However, they ALSO had to be enthusiastic about the other person to be attractive.

That way, it put the subject in a more balanced and attractive light.

Discover The ‘Psychological Triggers’ To Activate a Man’s Infatuation Instinct - CLICK HERE 

#2: Rock His World

In a nutshell, you need to generate strong emotions within your guy while he’s with you. He’ll then associate those feelings with you, which naturally creates that spark.

In an MIT study, behavioral researchers found that people have a habit of transferring their feelings from one setting to the next.

What does this mean?

For instance, if you nearly hit another car while driving to work, you’d carry those negative vibes into the office. That previous, unrelated experience would bleed into the rest of your day.

Some call this “emotional misattribution” or “emotional leakage” - this is the human tendency to attach strong feelings to the nearest person, even if they had little to do with it.

Also, it has to do with the fact that being physically aroused can easily translate into a sexual attraction. So, if you can find a way to keep things exciting for him – like doing sports or something physically intensive – then he’ll latch those feelings onto you.

#3: Laugh at His Jokes

Admittedly, a lot of women reacted to this piece of advice with a raised eyebrow.

But hear me out – this could be a game-changer in your relationship.

First of all, you don’t need to be rolling on the floor with tears in your eyes if his jokes bombed.

A polite chuckle is perfectly fine, and that gives him the hint that he’s not funny (i.e. you’re not attracted to him).

But if your funny bone really is tingling from his witty one-liners, then go ahead and laugh.

Studies show that humor is a huge factor in sexual attraction. As you already know, women like guys who are funny because it’s a sign of intelligence (which is an attractive trait).

But recent research done by Westfield State College, University of Western Ontario, and McMaster University state that "men preferred those who were receptive to their own humor, particularly for sexual relationships.”

This seems like it’s not so much about treating a guy’s ego with kid gloves…

…and more to do with a man’s desired to be appreciated by his partner.

Trust me, I know plenty of guys who have appreciation as one of their “must haves” in a relationship. So, appreciating his sense of humor is a good step in that direction.

Use These Scripts To Trigger A Man’s Infatuation Instinct And See The Dramatic Difference On How He Responds To You - CLICK HERE 

#4: Find Strength in Numbers

According to several studies, you can be more attractive by hanging out with your friends.

For instance, there’s research from Tilburg University in the Netherlands and the University of California that both document what’s known as the “cheerleader effect.”

This basically states that someone’s perception of you changes favorable once you’re in a group.

On the surface, you might think it’s because you’ll appear more sociable and friendly. This makes you attractive without looking like you’re trying too hard.

But there’s another angle to it. You see, the human brain has a habit of categorizing individual elements (like shapes, objects and people) into a general group.

This is mostly a hardwired survival trait to not visually focus too hard on one thing - but rather the whole picture. And this instinct spills over into a person’s social life as well.

So in a practical sense, you can set your social media (and online dating) profile picture to a photo featuring you with a group of friends. Just make sure it’s clear who you are in the picture so you don’t get lost in the sea of faces!

If you’re looking to a meet a guy in a bar or a party, make sure to bring your squad along too. Social proofing is a real phenomenon, so use it to your advantage.

#5: Appeal to His Sensual Side

There’s really no surprise here. Any guy who’s interested in women will obviously want physical intimacy in the relationship.

But you’d be surprised – and even downright concerned – how many women are lacking this department.

A lot of them take for granted the power of using their feminine charm to win a guy over.

And no, I’m not telling you to start acting out a scene from an adult film to turn a guy on.

What I am saying is that you should be more aware of a guy’s hot buttons, and learn how to push them.

For instance, women underestimate the power of physical touch.

Most men go their whole lives not knowing the pure pleasure of a validating pat on the back, a hug, or other forms of affection.

Women, on the other hand, tend to experience this on a daily basis.

So using body language is an excellent way to ignite his senses – whether it’s brushing against his arm or leg against yours “accidentally”…

…or putting your hand on his arm for a few precious seconds.

Remember, men love being teased, and the delicious pleasure of the “slow burn.”

And of course, men also appreciate variety when it comes to the main event in bed. Make an effort and take the initiative to spice things up every now and then.

Better yet, you could even go as far as asking him what he wants, then apply it in bed after (with your consent, of course). That would make for an interesting topic, don't you think?

One more thing - there’s another trait I didn’t mention earlier, but it’s incredibly attractive to men as well.

A study done at Rutgers University found a unique psychological trait in guys that they’ve dubbed as an “emotional tripwire.”

Now, once you understand how this works – and how to use it (which is super easy by the way)…

…your guy will instantly enter a state of intense infatuation.

It’s like a splinter in his mind, and he’ll be incapable of thinking of any other women in a romantic way – except YOU.

There’s a free video presentation that explains this in SHOCKING detail, so make sure you’re sitting down before watching it:

How To Use Infatuation Scripts To Make Him Sure That You’re The One For Him - CLICK HERE 

Wednesday, June 9, 2021

10 Signs He Loves You (Even if He Doesn’t Say it Out Loud)

 By Slade Shaw

Author of Why Men Pull Away 

 

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“If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.” - Oprah Winfrey

In our hyperconnected world, people tend to throw around words that don’t hold much weight.

With social media in particular, a lot of folks often post stuff that doesn’t have much in the way of value.

They’re either superficial (like cat videos or memes), or spout empty platitudes that pay lip service.

And when it comes to relationships – or ones that have yet to get off the ground – people often say things they don’t necessarily mean.

A guy might tell you that he’s in love with you, but his actions don’t quite match up to his words. Or he could be, in fact, falling hard for you, but can’t find the words to say it.

Why is reading a guy’s signs such a tricky business?

Why can’t he just drop the whole mixed signals act and be straight up with how he really feels about you?

You’ve probably met and dated a handful guys, so you know what I’m talking about.

And I can totally understand if you’re feeling a little jaded by men who can’t seem to get it together and be honest about their feelings.

Well, let me help you with that and give you the REAL signs that a guy’s super serious about you – and worth waiting for.

 

First, a Warning

 

Ok, so today you’re going to find out if a guy loves you - or if you should move on…

…but let me get something important out of the way real quick.

You see, women talk about mixed signals all the time when they’re trying to figure out where they stand with a Potential Someone.

But here’s what I always tell them: there’s NOTHING “mixed” about a guy’s signals.

Everything he does - and doesn’t do - is a clear indication of what’s really going on in that head of his.

And a lot of times, his words won’t have as much weight as his ACTIONS.

When the connection is there, and you already know you’re bonkers for each other, saying those three words is just icing on the cake.

It’s wonderful to hear him drop the “L” word on you – but they’ll only confirm what your HEART already knew long before.

So now you’re probably telling me, “What do you think I am, some sort of psychic?”

“Surely you don’t expect me to open his mind like a book and ‘already know’ before he opens his mouth?”

I hear you – and that’s why it’s time to give you the Top 10 Ways To Tell He’s Got It Bad For You:

 

#1: He’ll Drop Clues

 

Relax, you don’t have to be Sherlock Holmes to crack the mystery of his heart.

Most guys are not going to tell you about his feelings upfront (surprise, surprise), but it’s not because they’re trying to toy with your emotions.

It’s more of the fact that a lot of men aren’t big on expressing themselves emotionally.

I know a lot of guys who have trouble with this. They were raised to think that opening up and talking about this stuff isn’t really a useful (or masculine) trait to have.

And sadly, it’s made it hard for them to talk about something as difficult as feelings...

…which makes professing their LOVE for you an even BIGGER challenge.

But nonetheless, it’s not that hard to decode the real meaning behind his somewhat cryptic statements.

You just need to ask yourself a couple of important questions - and the answer will reveal itself soon enough:

  • When he talks to me, does he make me feel I’m important to him? (e.g. “Hey, I found that vintage 80s Rainbow Brite lunch box you were looking for…it was on this guy’s nostalgia collector’s blog. I’ll send you the link…you owe me a coffee!”)
  • Is he implying that he’s only interested in ME – and no one else? (e.g. “Man, working at the office can be such a drag…especially those noisy girls over at marketing with their faces buried in their Instagram pages. This place could use someone cool like you J”)

It’s likely he’ll try to mask it with humor or act nonchalant about it.

But if there’s that unmistakable spark of affection beneath it, he’s probably not putting you in the Friend Zone anytime soon.

 

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#2: He’s got THAT look

 

Yup, the eyes are windows to the soul and all that.

But don’t get all clinical and start measuring the diameter of his pupils. That would be weird…

Instead, think about the way he looks at you.

Is he mesmerized by your mere presence?

His eyes should be telling you, “You’re too good to be real…yet here you are.”

And is he constantly stealing glances at you? When you sneak a peek at your guy, do you catch him staring at you – then quickly looking away?

Guys are visual creatures, as the saying goes. If he likes what he sees, he’ll have a hard time tearing his eyes away.

 

#3: He has ZERO excuses

 

A guy in love isn’t going to let his work or any other stuff he has going on to get in the way of seeing you.

No matter how full his plate gets, he’ll always squeeze in some “we time” with you. You won’t hear him making half-baked excuses that “things are crazy at work” or “I’m kind of busy right now.”

That’s the thing about a man who’s into you: he’ll move mountains to clear space in his week for you, and it SHOWS.

And even if he’s super busy at the moment, he’ll always let you know what’s going on with him.

He’ll never make you feel like he’s gone off the grid and keep you updated when he can see you again.

 

#4: He keeps it REAL with you

 

You know what I mean by this if you’ve ever had a close friend who “tells it like it is”…

…and doesn’t tell you what you want to hear, but what you NEED to hear.

When a guy truly loves you, he understands what makes you tick.

He knows BOTH your great and not-so-great qualities…and yet he STILL thinks you’re the greatest person he’s met.

And if he sees that you’re not being the best you can be, this guy won’t be afraid to point it out.

But he’s not going to be condescending or a jerk about it. He’ll be more likely to tease you, bust your chops and give you “a hard time” rather than actually making you feel bad.

 

#5: His time is YOUR time

 

I mentioned early that it’s a good sign when he makes you feel important. Another part of that is him going out of his way to do stuff together with you.

This goes beyond moving important stuff in his calendar to see you. 

The operative word here is “together”.

If he’s trying to create a DEEPER bond by way of a regular ROUTINE, that’s something you shouldn’t ignore.

Maybe he’s taking the initiative to set up weekly activities like weekend coffee at his favorite hangout, or taking you along to his book club meeting to see if you might dig it.

This is him moving from “single mode” to a I-think-I-want-to-get -serious-with-this-girl mindset.

 

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#6: He totally puts you at ease

 

When you don’t know where you stand with someone, the way he acts and talks puts you on edge. You can’t put your finger on it, but you know he’s the flaky type.

Not with this guy. Everything he says and does points to the fact that he’s not going anywhere.

There’s nothing ambiguous about him, especially with the way he makes you feel.

Whether it’s his choice of words (as indirect as they may be), his body language or the general vibe he gives off…

you just know he wants to be on board – no ifs, ands or buts about it.

 

#7: He knows it’s not always about him

 

We all have a tendency to be a little self-centered from time to time, and that’s ok.

But if a guy who loves you, you can see how much he’s willing to meet you halfway with a lot of things.

For instance, he’s not going to insist on eating at that new Asian seafood restaurant that’s been getting good Yelp reviews if you’re not feeling it.

And even though he’s not a Greek cuisine kind of guy, he’s cool about eating there because your preferences matter to him.

That’s just the kind of man he is.

He knows relationships are a matter of give and take, which is why you’ve got as much say in it as he does.

 

#8: He’s always trying to make you happy

 

You probably don’t want an overeager puppy of a guy waiting on hand and foot for your every need - that would be a little scary…

But you do want someone who’s naturally attuned to your inner state and knows when something’s off.

You might not even say anything, but he knows when to swoop in and take action.

He’ll ask if you want anything when he goes on a coffee run, offer you a ride to work before running his own errands, or even organize your DVD collection alphabetically.

Whatever it is, he’s working overtime to make sure everything’s fine and dandy in your world.

If a man’s in love, he LOVES knowing he gets to take care of you in the way he knows how.

#9: The details matter to him

 

John Gottman, founder of the Gottman Institute and author of “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”, has literally spent decades observing couples up close to understand how relationships work.

In his research, he’s found that the strongest couples make an effort to know each other’s inner worlds.

He calls this as having “Love Maps”, which is basically a detailed knowledge of what’s going on with your partner.

And it’s easy to tell when a guy is trying to create his love map for you, whether you’ve known him for years or just getting to know him.

According to Gottman, if he cares enough to know the “little” things about you, it’s a sign of a healthy relationship.

This includes stuff like your favorite place to eat, your greatest rival at work, your idea of the perfect job, your biggest dream, your best friends and so on.

When you tell him about these things, naturally picks up on these little bits and pieces and saves them for future reference. He does this because he knows it makes up the amazing and unique person you are.

 

#10: He’s in it for the long haul

 

Does your man have a certain tenacity to him? Is he the type who doesn’t give up when he hits a roadblock in life?

Would you even say he’s a little stubborn?

It’s easy to brush this off as a part of his masculine identity, but it may run deeper than you think.

This quality could also be a promising sign if it carries over into the way he deals with you, and your relationship.

You might have some past issues or baggage you’ve picked up from your ex…

…or your differences with your guy are starting to bubble to the surface…

…or maybe he’s going through some of his own stuff while trying to spend time with you.

These challenges are totally par for the course for any relationship.

So if these things don’t phase him - and he’s more than willing to power through them – well then, you’ve got a keeper on your hands!

Now, if you’re seeing a couple of these signs in him, he might just be a really swell guy.

It could be that he’s awesome to everyone and only sees you as one of his friends.

However, if he’s checking off MOST of those boxes (like six or more), then you should be seriously thinking about your future with him…

…because he’s probably thinking THAT way about you.

Then there’s the other possibility that you’re not seeing any of these. There might be moments when it might seem like there’s a glimmer of hope, but it’s very faint.

Most of the time, he’s acting lukewarm towards you at best. If that’s the case, DON’T throw in the towel just yet!

Some men need a little more gentle prodding and encouragement than others.

If your gut is telling you there’s a connection between you and Mr. Slightly Dense - and you’re worried he might PULL AWAY for good…

…then it’s time to seal the deal before he leaves forever:

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This is your chance to empower yourself with the knowledge and skills to pull yourself out of the Friend Zone, and into his heart – watch my presentation right here. 

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